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When will we become loveable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve?

…We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves.


The idea of giving ourselves what we want can be confusing, especially if we have spent many years not knowing that it’s okay to take care of ourselves. Taking our energy and focus off others and placing that energy on to ourselves is a recovery behaviour that can be acquired. We learn it by daily practice.

We begin by relaxing, by breathing deeply, and letting go of our fears enough to feel as peaceful as we can. Then, we ask ourselves: What do I need to take care of myself today, or for this moment? What do I need and want to do?

Am I caught up in the belief that others are responsible for making me happy? Then I need to correct my belief system. I am responsible for myself.

Do I feel anxious and concerned about a responsibility I’ve been neglecting? Then perhaps I need to let go of my fears and tend to that responsibility.

Do I feel overwhelmed? Maybe I need a journey back to one of my first steps in recovery.

There is no formula for self-care. We each have a guide within us. We need to ask: What do I need to do to take loving, responsible care of myself? Then we need to listen to the answer. Self-care is not that difficult. The most challenging part is trusting the answer, and following through once we hear it.

Today, I will focus on taking care of myself. I will trust myself & Karma to guide me.

Rx: End-of-the-Week Love Myself Working Spell

Color of the Day: Purple
Incense of the Day: Orchid

Congrratulations! You made it through another week. Do you reward yourself with persistence in the face of adversity?

If you don’t have a date, then make one–with yourself. We live in stressful times, when the cell phone is on 24/7 and we can be contacted by work or involved in family or friend drama.

Turn off the cell. No, not vibrate! Just shut it off. Really! No interruptions! Take the night off.

Start with a movie or two and some take-out. Move on to pink candles and a relaxing bath soak in your favorite smells. How about a relaxing glass of wine, or your favorite drink? Finally, relax in bed with soft music and your favorite book or magazine til you fall asleep. You will be surprised how much better you will feel in the morning! This kind of personal attention works magic.

Llewellyn’s Witches’ Almanac 2014, Boudica


Rx: Release Stress Through a Tree

Color of the Day: White
Incense of the Day: Apricot

When you are really stressed, it is helpful to use a tree to help ground you and relieve the stressful energy from your body. To do this, find a strong tree and sit at its base with your back leaning against the tree trunk. Breathe slowly and deeply and allow the tree to draw the harmful energy right out of you. In order to avoid polluting the tree’s energy with undo stress, you can recite this spell to help focus the transformation of the energy, thus freeing you while keeping the tree safe (you and the tree are the “we” in this spell):

Ancient tree, reaching down through the earth and up to the stars,

Scatter this stress, scatter it far.

Recycle the chaos; we’re free from this storm

And left with inner quiet and calm.

When you feel better, thank the tree before you leave.

Llewellyn’s Witches’ Almanac 2014, Michael Furie

Rx: Stop Gossip Spell

Color of the Day: Amber
Incense of the Day: Rosemary

For this spell to end gossip, you’ll need a small glass jar with a lid, a small piece of paper, a pinch each of salt and clove, a drop of olive oil, and a gray candle.

Begin by blending together the salt, clove, and oil. Write the gossip or the rumor on the paper, and apply a drop of the oil mixture. Light the candle, and hold the candle ove the jar, letting some of the wax drip over the lid to seal it. As you do this, say:

All lies and rumors will cease,
Vicious gossip ends, throw the jar and candle away.

James Kambos, Llewellyn’s Witches’ Almanac 2014


Rx: Row by Row

Color of the Day: Silver
Incense of the Day: Hyssop

Autumn is the season of harvest, which typically begins in early August. Previously done with draft horses or oxen, it involves cutting the grain and turning over the earth. This is now done primarily with tractors, but it still entails going back and forth over the rows. So harvest is a time of repetition and introspection. This lends itself well to meditation.

Any kind of repetitious, back and forth motion is suitable for this meditation. Knitting, crocheting, raking leaves in the yard, or even walking to work. Choose what you can do, what helps settle your mind. Seek to attune yourself to the energy of the harvest season. As you go back and forth, repeat this mantra:

As the ox plows,
As the tractor turns,
Row by row,
As the pen writes,
As the knitter binds,
Row by row,
So time passes
And minds remember,
Seasons go.

Llewellyn’s Witches’ Almanac 2014, Elizabeth Barrette