When will we become loveable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve?
…We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves.
- BEYOND CODEPENDENCY
The idea of giving ourselves what we want can be confusing, especially if we have spent many years not knowing that it’s okay to take care of ourselves. Taking our energy and focus off others and placing that energy on to ourselves is a recovery behaviour that can be acquired. We learn it by daily practice.
We begin by relaxing, by breathing deeply, and letting go of our fears enough to feel as peaceful as we can. Then, we ask ourselves: What do I need to take care of myself today, or for this moment? What do I need and want to do?
Am I caught up in the belief that others are responsible for making me happy? Then I need to correct my belief system. I am responsible for myself.
Do I feel anxious and concerned about a responsibility I’ve been neglecting? Then perhaps I need to let go of my fears and tend to that responsibility.
Do I feel overwhelmed? Maybe I need a journey back to one of my first steps in recovery.
There is no formula for self-care. We each have a guide within us. We need to ask: What do I need to do to take loving, responsible care of myself? Then we need to listen to the answer. Self-care is not that difficult. The most challenging part is trusting the answer, and following through once we hear it.
Today, I will focus on taking care of myself. I will trust myself & Karma to guide me.