It’s good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters, in the end. – Karma
NotThatKindofGirl, goals give direction to our lives. We need to know who we are and where we want to go. But the adventure itself, the steps we travel, the choices we choose over momentary satisfaction, offer us progress, traction and fulfillment, if we’d but realize it. Too often we keep our sights on the goals completion, rather than the day-to-day living that makes the completion possible.
How often do we think, “When I finish college, I’ll feel stronger.” Or, “After the divorce is final, I can get back to work.” Or even, “When I land a promotion, my troubles are over.” Life will begin “when” or so it seems in our minds. And when this attitude controls our thinking, we pass up our opportunity to live and connect altogether as a family!
Looking back on goals already completed in our lives, what so quickly follows the end of a job well done is a let down. And how sad that the hours, the days, the weeks, maybe even the months we toiled are gone, will little sense of all they could have meant. But, alas, a “let down” is only an opportunity for you to see that you need your support and the support of others to help cultivate you inner survivor spirit to help you move forward! There is another way in recovery that was made possible because of the path you chose! Don’t fret!
Karma says, “Never a failure, always a lesson.” Shh…there is a beginning and an end to each moment in our lives, there is a little message in every accomplishment we make in life, if we could only quiet our mind and trust that we are enough to let it through. An inner spirit is something that requires energy, patience, practice, compassion & trust…in yourself. It’s sort of like a dance! We all have a special dance, some of us are dancing the wrong dances, some of us have danced with the wrong people and some of us are learning a new dance!
Be mindful in your recovery today, for other NotThatKindofGirl‘s. Be careful not to judge or compare your dance to hers. It’s more important to try to teach each other a step or two. Finding the courage and the compassion to connect with another girl and attempt to be fully yourself, is truly the secret formula for building yourself a beautiful “Self garden”!
“I will not forget that in each moment, daily, I can do something Karma-centered and joyous to consider something new about myself. The goal I’m striving toward will carry with it a special gift; it will offer the growing Witch within me an extra thrill.”